House Share Quiz: Am I Ready to be a Live in Landlord?

Be honest! If you often get very annoyed when you find something out of its place or someone has left a bit of a mess at home, you're only kidding yourself and possibly storing up trouble for the future when you share a house, if you don't face this beforehand.

It's important that you choose the first response that comes to mind, not how you might respond under ideal circumstances or what you think should be the appropriate response! Remember, faced with some of the situations in this quiz, most people's reactions are likely to range from mild irritation through to anxiety.



Your lodger normally pays the rent by a certain date, without fail. This time, however, they're pretty late, and haven't mentioned it to you...
You say nothing to the lodger's face, but make enquiries into your rights to evict, in case you need to exercise them...
Ask if anything's wrong and offer advice, but tell them that barring a very good reason, you expect the rent to be made up by next month.
Tell them you want your rent by the end of the week or they can move out.
As it's the only time it's happened, you decide to ignore it, as you're sure they'll soon pay.

Your lodger is regularly smoking in the house - against the agreement - and your express wishes.
Make remarks (either to their face & to your friends or just to your friends) about their smoking.
They've deliberately breached the agreement, so give them notice to move out - also withhold their deposit until you've assessed any damage or extra cleaning that may need to be done.
They can move out immediately and you consider changing the locks while they're out.
You don't like it, but live and let live...

Your lodger makes you feel intimidated or uneasy in your home
Bitch about them to your friends and make sure you're making their life difficult too.
Tell them politely that you need the room back and serve notice on them.
Tell them firmly that if they don't move out ASAP, you'll evict them!
It's nothing tangible that you can put your finger on, so you ignore it.

Your lodger has left a back door unlocked.
Lock it, say nothing but resent it, and/or make remarks about the door being left unlocked.
Remind them, without being heavy, that they forgot to lock the back door.
Tell them if it happens again, they will have to move out.
Just lock it.

Your lodger has left their washing up undone in your kitchen.
You have no problem doing it - provided your lodger would return the favour.
Remind your lodger that it's your home, and you expect them to clean up after themselves!
Do it, and either say nothing, but resent it or make remarks.
Just leave it - you're sure they'll get around to doing it themselves.

Your lodger has left your kitchen upside down...
You grin and bear it, but make remarks to your friends or under your breath.
You're annoyed, but calm down & have a friendly chat with your lodger - there's likely to be a good reason.
You're furious! How dare they! You'll definitely limit their use of the kitchen.
I probably wouldn't even notice - live and let live.

You return from a short stay away to find your lodger is holding a quiet dinner party with 5 people, albeit they're not causing any disturbance (except maybe to you)...
You're annoyed, but swallow it, after all, you have to live and let live....(don't you..?).
Tell them you know it's their home and the occasional party or gathering is OK, but as you live there too you'd really appreciate if they'd check with you first in future!
Tell them in NO uncertain terms that they can't hold any more parties or use your home to entertain all their friends. If they don't like it, they can find somewhere else to live!
Great! You love a party.

It's a beautiful evening and you're looking forward to relaxing in your garden, after a hard day's work, but your lodger and a couple of their friends are already sitting there...
You say nothing, but regret not limiting your lodger's use of the house, and allowing so many visitors...
You say "hi" and might have asked if was ok to join them, but right now you're too tired to socialise.
You ask them if they'd all like to go back to the lodger's room.
You'd be sat out with them, holding sway!

On entering your lounge, you find your lodger sitting in your favourite chair watching TV.
I wouldn't say anything, but would seethe inwardly.
If use of the lounge starts to become a problem, I would try to come to a compromise over the programmes we watch, or perhaps have certain times when we each have exclusive use of the lounge (e.g. if one of us has a visitor).
I either wouldn't allow them in the lounge full stop, or at the very least, I would point out which seats are for the family and they can watch our programmes or lump it.
I wouldn't even notice!

You run into your lodger's boyfriend or girlfriend coming out of your bathroom one morning, after they've stayed the night...
Say "good morning" in an icy tone - you really must have that talk with the lodger and tell them you're very uncomfortable with their partner staying.
You have no problem with your lodger's partner staying a couple of times a week, and of course using the house - provided you're told first.
If that person is there, it's without your consent, and what a cheek, to use your bathroom and run up your bills!
No problem - you probably would've sat up with them and shared a bottle of wine the night before.

Within the space of a week, your lodger's boyfriend or girlfriend has being staying overnight so often, it's beginning to feel like you've got two lodgers now, but now, your lodger is asking if their partner can stay the night yet again...
Reluctantly agree to the partner staying yet again, but resent it - you're definitely going to have that talk about no overnight guests, but probably only after the situation has annoyed you so much you're ready to lose it!
Remind your lodger that their partner has already stayed an awful lot this week and also remind them that it's only OK within reason (e.g. 2 nights a week), otherwise, their partner is effectively living there, and that's not fair on you (and you show your lodger the same respect where your live out partner is concerned).
They wouldn't be - I'd have made it clear there were to be no overnight guests from the start.
No problem - your partner stays as often as they want, why shouldn't your lodger's?

After they've used your washing machine, you find your lodger's clothes hanging on your radiators:
Say nothing, but resent the sight of their washing all over your home!
Your lodger needs to dry their clothes - we all have to! You would only have a friendly word if the lodger was using the machine a lot or hanging their washing somewhere it was causing a problem.
You make it clear to your lodger when they can use the machine and for how long, and exactly where they can dry their washing OR you expect them to make arrangements for their laundry outside your home.
What's the problem - you do your laundry and hang it up - why shouldn't they?

You get home to find your lodger's visitor using your kitchen.
After your initial shock, you say "hello" in a somewhat offhand tone - should this person really be using your kitchen?
Say "hello" and make some small talk. Ask them if they have everything they need, then let them be.
Ask them what they're doing/looking for, then point out (either to the visitor or your lodger) that apart from you, the kitchen is for the lodger's use only.
Offer to make them a cup of tea then start chatting about your mutual friend, your lodger, and have a laugh over their foibles!